“Your friends will determine the quality and direction of your life”~ Andy Stanley
Worthy relationships and interpersonal bonding are precious capital in human life. Naturally, humans are designed as social beings that mean, we are to survive and progress collectively. Abraham Maslow explained human connections and belongingness as a survival necessity. Social attachment theory suggests, children need a trusting emotional connection with caregivers to grow with a sound and healthy brain. The skills to connect and create stronger interpersonal bonding are thus both biological and mental fundamental human needs in family, society, and even the workplace environments. In fact connections, bonding, and relationships often dominate over all other attributes in most of the domains of human interactions.
Well-connected people in society are likely to succeed more and overcome challenges comparatively in an easier way. A high standard of connections with diverse populations can make a person more significant in society and promote unity. Strong organizational connections with influential stakeholders are essential for better stability, security, and growth for any institution. Hence, one of the most needed leadership necessities is to build stable networks with diverse groups and teams both individually and organizationally. A strong leadership climate demands, a leader to create a durable bonding with his own people as well as with the leaders all around.
The degree of connections often determines the level of cooperation and outcome of certain negotiations among individuals, groups, and organizations. A close relationship with higher authority also acts as synonymous with power. Intelligent people possess the mastery of using the power source through creative connections. These people are keenly skilled to develop innovative relationships with influential individuals, both personally and professionally. During the pre-modern days, people used to make family relations with strong tribes and groups as a part of leadership strategy. The similar picture of family relationships in the leadership domain is no exception even today. We find many leaders and administrators of the present democratic world are some near and dear, siblings, and descendants of influential people of those societies. Perhaps, most of those leaders and administrators are equally brilliant and enough competent in their role, but the connections with power sources helped them climb the ladder faster and win the race. These people are smart and able to use others’ strengths to their own advantage through creative relationships.
There are different forms of human connections. These may be explained as social connections, legal connections and natural emotional bonding. Among all the patterns of connections, the most powerful is the natural emotional connections as we find them in our personal life. Most people dedicate their all efforts and abilities to uphold their own family. Often people are also found compromising their lifelong principles and values to safeguard the family members. Indeed, we love our family more than anything in the world. We are deeply connected with people whom we love. It means strong human relationships are a source of enormous strength. To enjoy this strength as a precious leadership capital, you need to master the skills of building innovative relationships with people and power sources. As junior leaders, your strong connections with superiors and good relationships with peers can help you to be confident in leading. It can multiply your ability as it enhances your support on vulnerabilities and encourages you to take risks. Your level of loyalty, truthfulness, willingness to run the extra mile, and competence are essential to get near to your superiors. You should learn to attach yourself to the likings, passions and emotional areas of your superior leaders if you wish to win their love and affection.
Indeed, the level of your mental attachment with your own people determines your leadership strength and signifies your leadership environment. To build strong connections you need to carefully study the needs and aspirations of your people and tap into their emotional areas. Tie your faith, beliefs, likings, and feelings with your people to make them more attached. You need to uphold the trust of your men and safeguard their interests above any other priority. Strong emotional connections do not come overnight, it takes time to grow. Your men should feel that you are always available to them both physically and emotionally under all circumstances. If you hold back in any way, you will lose the possibility of growing a strong bonding. Sometimes it is hard to keep a healthy relationship with some odd characters but keep your patience as an investment. Never cut any relations forever. Learn to accommodate the odds and master the ability to control your own negative emotions while dealing with people. You may also have to accept discomforts at times to keep men connected with you. Do not accuse people, rather admit your responsibility for their mistakes. Your positive attitude at their hard times will keep your men more connected with you and invest in growing stronger trust for future assignments.
When you are meeting someone, give unflinching attention to him or her and connect them emotionally. Your little courteous attitude may cost some of your time and effort but surely have an enormous impact to connect people you interact with.