“Your friends will determine the quality and direction of your life”~ Andy Stanley
Worthy relationships and interpersonal bonding are precious capital in human life. Naturally, humans are designed as social beings, which means we are to survive and progress collectively. Abraham Maslow explained human connections and belongingness as a primary survival necessity. Social attachment theory suggests children need a trusting emotional relationship with caregivers to grow with a sound and healthy brain. The skills to connect and create stronger interpersonal bonding are thus both biological and mental needs in family, society, and even the workplace environments. Connections, bonding, and relationships often overpower logic, principles, values, and all other attributes in most of the domains of human interactions.
Well-connected people are likely to succeed more and overcome challenges in comparatively easier ways. A high level of connections with diverse populations, groups, and organizations can make a person more significant in society and promote unity. Strong organizational links with influential stakeholders are essential for better stability, security, and growth for any institution. Hence, one of the most needed leadership necessities is to build strong networks with diverse people, groups, and teams both individually and organizationally. A stable leadership climate demands a leader to create a durable bonding with his people as well as with the leaders all around.
The degree of connections often determines the cooperation and outcome of particular negotiations among individuals, groups, and organizations. A close relationship with higher authority also acts as synonymous with power. Intelligent people possess the mastery of using the power source through creative connections. These people are keenly proficient in developing innovative relationships with influential individuals, both personally and professionally. During the pre-modern days, people used to make family relations with strong tribes and groups as a part of leadership strategy. The similar picture of family relationships in the leadership domain is no exception even in the democratic world today. Many leaders and administrators of different countries are found some near and dear, siblings, and descendants of influential people of those societies. Perhaps, most of those leaders are equally brilliant and competent enough in their role, but the connections with power sources helped them climb the ladder faster and win the race. These people are intelligent and able to use others’ strengths to their own advantage through creative connections.
There are different forms of human connections. These may be explained as a social, legal, and natural emotional bonding. Among all the patterns of relationships, the most powerful is the natural emotional connections we also find in our daily life. We dedicate all our efforts and abilities to supporting our own family needs. We often compromise our lifelong practiced principles and values to safeguard our family members. Indeed, we love our family more than anything in the world; we are deeply connected with those we love. It means strong human relationships are a source of enormous power. To enjoy this strength as a precious leadership capital, you need to master building innovative relationships with people, groups, and power sources. As a junior leader, your strong connections with superiors and good relationships with peers can help you be confident in leading. It can multiply your ability as it enhances your support and encourages you to take risks. Your loyalty, truthfulness, willingness to run the extra mile, and competence are the price to stay near your superiors. If you wish to win their love and affection, you should also learn to attach yourself to your senior leaders’ necessities, likings, passions, and emotional areas.
The degree of your mental attachment with your people determines your leadership strength and signifies your leadership environment. To build strong connections, you need to carefully study the needs and aspirations of your people and tap into their emotional areas. Tie your faith, beliefs, likings, and feelings with your people to make them more attached to you. You need to uphold the trust of your men and safeguard their interests above any other priority. Strong emotional connections do not come overnight; it takes time to grow. Your men should feel that you are always physically and emotionally available to them under all circumstances. If you hold back in any way, you will lose the possibility of growing a strong bonding. Sometimes it is hard to keep a healthy relationship with some odd characters but keep your patience as an investment. Never cut any relations forever. Learn to accommodate the odds and master the ability to control your own negative emotions while dealing with people. You may also have to accept discomforts at times to maintain necessary connections. If your people make some mistakes, do not accuse them, instead admit your responsibility for their errors. Your positive attitude at their hard times will keep your men more connected with you and invest in growing stronger trust for future assignments.
When you meet someone, give unflinching attention to them and connect them emotionally. Your little courteous attitude may cost some of your time and effort but have an enormous impact on connecting people you interact with.